Sex and the Fantasy Bride

Big fuss about “The Dress” for today’s royal wedding. It was alright… I think Grace Kelly wore that style better, but then I’ve always had a thing for Grace Kelly and Kate Middleton doesn’t exactly turn my crank. I’m not really into costumes… I suppose a wedding dress is “costume with a purpose” or “socially [...]

Wives, Mistresses and Furniture

There’s a scene in Soylent Green where Charlton Heston is asking this woman what her relationship to the dead guy is. She hedges and he labels her “furniture” — basically a concubine that comes with the apartment. It’s a job, she has a place to live, and things are actually pretty good when the guy [...]

Sex and Nirvana

I love losing myself in my lover, and I’m terrified of losing myself in her at the same time… The idea that I could become so immersed in another person that I feel what she feels, even think what she thinks, is sort of a Nirvana and a suicide at the same time. Lovemaking is [...]

My Wife and my Mistress Have a “Chat”

We were getting divorced. You can’t say that the affair was the reason for the divorce, but it certainly played a pretty noticeable role in our life drama as it unfolded. Fiona was my hairdresser, and a recent widow. Her husband had a stroke which should kill a man, but instead it paralyzed him from [...]

Sex — we don’t see much, do we?

It’s funny how visual men are about sex and yet how little of it we actually see when doing it. I mean, your average night of passion is with the lights off and quite often under the covers, not exactly the most visually stimulating circumstances. Foreplay involves a lot of looking… back up… Dating involves [...]

Women who say, “You Trained Him Well” need to be trained

I don’t know how many times have I heard a woman say, “You trained him well…” Just because I help a woman with her coat, doesn’t mean that I was “trained” to do it like a lapdog is trained to dance in circles at her command. I swear, one of these days I’m going to [...]

Cheating — Sex And Taxes

You cheat on your taxes, or cards. Cheating is sneaky and you’re stealing something. Cheating destroys the game by subverting the rules. Having sex with someone else might be sneaky but is it stealing? Look, I go back and forth on this. I want my partner to be mine, I don’t want to think about [...]

The Hairball of Intimacy, Love and Sex

I’m not being clear. Funny, I read the opening line (I’m not being clear) and realized how often I’ve said that during arguments with lovers. Maybe it’s not that I’m not being clear, maybe it’s that this whole sticky, smelly mass of intimacy, love and sex isn’t clear, and maybe it can’t be. @BeyondFD brought [...]

Male Motivation, Female Hormones

Let’s cover one of those things about my male brain that Kitty says she finds so fascinating. It’s simply this: If you’re a woman, you’re never going to get it. Look women have been using this defense for years against men… “You just don’t understand!” And while they say they understand, simply saying she was [...]

Smart men, smart women, dumb couples

I like smart women, but I have to admit, I’ve fucked a lot of dumb ones. Talking about this with a guy friend, he told me some basic equations… Smart man + dumb woman = Affair A smart man likes to screw around with a dumb woman because he can totally manipulate her. She’ll believe [...]