Cute at a distance

She had a shock of flaming red hair and her skin was beautiful and creamy as it seemed to shift colors while moved across the parking lot. The little blue sundress was simultaneously innocent and sexy giving her an alluring look that wasn’t slutty or dirty. The beautiful summer day probably helped a lot — [...]

Wandering into an Adult Friend Finder Hookup

My buddy Don and I started drinking early that day… Well, actually, Don and his office manager started drinking REALLY early and I just kind of caught up in time to… well, catch up. The were at this dive bar near Don’s office that has an amazing selection of whiskeys — fill your card with [...]

Watching the Cougar Pounce

It’s a meat market… but they’ve got a great band. They play covers of 70′s hits like Freak Out and Earth Wind and Fire’s insidious song, September (ah di ah, tell me you remember, ah di a, dancing in September… Can’t get it out of my head once I think of it…) Fiona’s niece sings [...]

Corporate Relations (or “Managing your women”)

“nicolasa” asked in reply to my blog Wives, Mistresses and Furniture: Would there even be love in something like this, or is everyone too busy playing a game? It seems like the man would lose if someone got greedy. Do you think it takes three to make one person satisfied in all areas of a [...]

Friends/Dating/Sex OR Sex/Dating/Friends

I noted a while back that when you have sex and when you have friends seems to have gotten switched in our modern world (see Wait a sec… Is this a Date?). Let’s review: Old Method: Make Friends with Someone Get to know them, maybe by dating After awhile, if you like them, maybe you’ll [...]

Comforting Her with Asperger’s

I was in this conversation with a friend whose 40-something guy just dumped her after 11 years of dating — they still had separate houses but they were in that long-term relationship that “dating” doesn’t really seem to describe. He’s smart, fairly successful, and mildly awkward in social situations which, apparently, made him more endearing [...]

Wait a sec… is this a date?

Got a question from a friend today asking “How do I tell the difference between a date and a friendly guy inviting me over?” My first reaction was, “If a guy asks a woman out and there’s no one else around, do you really think he doesn’t want to fuck her?” My second thought was [...]

Portland Snow and Anguilla Sun

I love the feel of heavy blankets in a cold room in the wintertime, more so if I have someone to share the bed with. The cocoon of the blankets, two bodies pressed together for warmth, and a bit more, sometimes a lot more… Even without the passion of love making, there’s a wonderful comfort [...]

Hot Coffee and Hot Baristas

I wonder how often the Starbucks girls get hit on. Once they pull their hair back and put on the green apron, they’re all pretty interchangeable, and while the toned down look of a Starbucks barista shouldn’t be a turn on, there’s something about those girls that makes me want to ask them out for [...]

College Girls and Dog Shit — a Life Lesson

There was this girl I liked in college; we worked together on the underground alternative newspaper, and she was one of those almost exotic nerdy girls. It was all business as we worked through typesetting and production work, but one day I was able to get the casual coffee that turned into the long walk [...]